Avoid fighting over who is right or wrong

“I’ve been doing this for almost 40 years,” says Marshall, “and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve listened to people having an ‘I’m right and you’re wrong’ argument”. Nobody has ever solved anything this way, he says. “All that happens is somebody will throw something else in, or they’ll find an example of the one time the other person was wrong. And we just go round and round in circles. However much you believe that your views are right, your partner believes just as much that their beliefs are right, too. You need to understand the position of each other better; then you can both soften and a third way will emerge. ‘I’m right, you’re wrong’ battles destroy relationships.”